In the world of social media, interesting and uplifting things manage to hit my radar every so often. Last week, it was this great story, song and video by an artist, Colbie Caillat, who I would never have heard of as it's not the kind of music I typically listen to.
You can read the story, and watch and listen to the video at the link behind the pic.
It not only inspired me as a powerful message for our young women, and some of the older women I know too, but it really got me to thinking about some of those universal truths.
We have all known girls, had girlfriends, or even sometimes been those girls who were so desperate to be in a relationship that they tried to be something they were not. Not in an effort to be false, or to hide or be dishonest, but innocently enough, just trying to be what "that person" wanted, or what she or we thought "that person" wanted.
I think we all also know that in the end, that is not only unsuccessful for the obvious reasons, but it is also kind of unattractive.
People know when you're not being your authentic self. Maybe they don't know they know it but they sense it. They sense your genuine self. One of those things I can look back and remember learning quite keenly as an Over 40 Female, is the process of learning to like myself. Really like myself.
The other thing I learned is that it's pretty unreasonable to ask someone else to like you if you don't actually like yourself.
And here's the universal truth part - this not only applies to romantic relationships, but also to family, friends and business.
The more you really like that person in the mirror, and the more you really authentically show up as that person in the mirror, the more attractive you become, on every level.
Don't get me wrong, you won't see me out too often with no makeup or my hair not done, but I am willing to put myself out there naked now.
It even inspired me to put together a special event with Chicago Over 40 Females.
When you're all alone by yourself do you like you?