For a while now, I've known in a very general sense the impact I want to make in the world.
I want to help women to
- See their brilliance and own their value
- Honor themselves by putting themselves first to fill their own reservoirs
- Better communicate and influence those around them
- Live a happy and fulfilled life today and everyday, never waiting for tomorrow to bring their happiness
I've gone down many paths to first figure out that this is really my purpose and passion in life and to explore how I may best affect this change in the world.
I started my first entrepreneurial enterprise with PartyLite and embarked on a lifelong journey of learning and personal development.
I started the Chicago Chapter of Over 40 Females and built a dynamic community of amazing women.
I moved into another direct sales company following a strong family dynamic and leadership team with Seacret Direct.
I launched my first full day event with my brand Whole Self Nourish and hosted 2 subsequent full day events to pour into, offer personal devlopment and lift up the women in the Chicagoland area.
I worked with two different amazing powerful business coaches who both pushed me in their own way to move out of my own way and step out of my scope of knowledge and into the next version of myself.
Over the next months, I'll be revealing more and more pieces of how I now see myself fully ready, willing and able to step into the delivery of my mission, my path and my purpose; as well as how you may be invited to participate if it is a right fit for you.
See you on the other side!
This week I write to you from sunny Phoenix.
I love it when the stars align and things gel together. I have a convention in downtown Phoenix over the weekend, and my parents live in the Phoenix suburbs. I am able to combine a visit with business and through the power of the world wide interwebs, I can even extend my visit to a whole week and work from Phoenix for a couple of days.
Today, we went out for breakfast, did a little shopping, and got massages.
As adults, we don't get the chance to get spoiled very often, so I'm enjoying my time with my parents and allowing myself to be treated.
It's not about money or gifts, but just letting someone else take care of things for you when you are normally the care giver, the organizer, the orchestrator is a huge blessing.
As women, we often have a hard time accepting, heck, most women can't even accept a compliment!
I'm giving myself the gift of doing just that this week. And it feels GREAT!
And check out my office!
You may or may not know my story, but through the journey of the past 10 or so years, my husband and I have both come to believe deep to the core of our being that not only does everything happen for a reason, but everything always works out for the best. I'll submit that when everything works out, it may not be in the way, or sometimes even the time that you wish, but it always does.
In my family, I am most like my father and my sister is most like my mother. One of the ways that this often presents itself is in the area of worry. I don't do a lot of it, but my Mom and sister both do.
Neither of these facts should suggest that I simply wait around for great stuff to happen, I definitely actively engage in my life, but I have the ability to release things that i have no control over and to not only hope, but also believe with my whole heart for the best.
Recently, some of you may have guessed from last weeks' blog post, I was met with a disappointing situation regarding my personal network marketing business. My personal business took a hit, and I also found myself faced with a dilemma regarding our upcoming convention where I was left with no roommates.
In the mean time, I was offered and accepted the honor of serving as the Chapter Director of the Online Community of Over 40 Females. Then, I was offered a coaching session through one of my network marketing company's top leaders. Talk about the stars aligning! He talked me through an outstanding strategy to build my business using a LOT of work I have done previously with another company that I didn't really think I could re-use. By the next morning, I had seen so many parallels that I can put into action immediately to benefit and grow the Over 40 Females Online Community.
AND I was connected with the PERFECT roommate. We spent more than an hour on the phone and are both so excited to be sharing the experience as we are in similar growth phases of our business.
All lining up perfectly in time for an amazing personal development and training conference and right before the holiday shopping season hits.
What some may have seen as a reason to give up I see as the most perfect thing that could have happened at the most perfect time.
Things happens for a reason.
Things always works out for the best.
Timing is everything.
Do you ever find yourself looking around and wondering how you got where you are? Of course, I can't help but hear the Talking Heads as I ask that question (you're welcome if you are too - click the pic).
As an Over 40 Female, my story is long but the journey I see as my journey started about 10 years ago.
After college, my husband like many people found it tough to get a job in his field. So, he took a job in a warehouse with a solid company. He worked his way up and along the way I was hired by the same company. He worked his way from a menial job in the warehouse to warehouse manager when they closed the facility and made him a project manager. Then the recession hit, and in a company that ran on the automobile industry, cuts came and they kept coming.
The day he was laid off, my manager sent me home as well to deal with the situation since we both worked for the same company. (I suspect they didn't want to take a chance I'd freak out or have a melt down in the office.) It was a bit of a surreal experience. I can best compare it to when someone you know has been sick and in pain for a long time and then they pass away. It's sad, and always some level of shock, but kind of a relief too.
We sat down and talked about our options and decided that it was his last, best chance to follow his dream of becoming a professional pilot. We'd figure out the rest along the way. He had been so unhappy as a project manager that I would have done anything to make it possible for him to have a job he truly enjoyed.
A short time later, I started my first direct sales position along side my corporate position. There were definitely some tight and scary months, but we made it. My husband got hired as a professional airline pilot.
We learned SO much through this process. I learned things about myself I never knew, I developed confidence, speaking, training and leadership skills I never would have thought I had, all sorts of things. We learned it is NEVER too late to go after your dreams. My husband was in his 40s when he went through the training and certifications and loss of income of changing careers. But it was SO worth every minute.
Like building a lot of solo businesses, everything wasn't perfect, and I went through some bumps and bruises and some heartache growing mine. As the struggle grew, I got to work with an amazing coach. Through our journey, I started having an inspiration to create a service based event for women. Those that were my customers, or that may become my customers. An event that would give women some much needed pampering and community and also give exposure and promotion to local businesses. I just couldn't quite figure out how to make it happen.
With a firm but loving nudge, I started doing research and found Over 40 Females. They were doing what I envisioned but even better! With more benefits than I had considered. We started talking and found a great fit, and Chicago Over 40 Females was born.
About a year ago, I was talking with a dear friend, someone who I consider a mentor as she has achieved significance in her business and financial success as well as the impact she has made on others lives. Someone I truly emulate.
I made the decision to change companies and leave the team and the business I had built in my first direct sales company behind.
It has been the best decision of my life.
Some more cool rebranding and exciting new stuff is coming... stay tuned!
Like most of you, I was brought up with the belief that if you do the right thing, the right things will happen and if you do the wrong thing, the wrong things will happen.
As business owners and professionals, integrity is a huge part of how we do business. The women that I interact with regularly operate in their business and their personal lives with the highest integrity.
Sometimes that faith, that belief system is shaken. Sometimes we are faced with a situation where someone being dishonest, and unethical seems to get ahead, maybe even to your detriment. If it happens in a big enough way, or an impactful enough way, it may do more than hurt our feelings, tick us off or leave us frustrated. It may make us wonder about the very thing we do. Is it worth it if the cheaters and the liars get ahead?
There is a wide spread belief that "what goes around comes around". In social media when you see an injustice, or someone with their "pants on fire" getting ahead, there is a general outcry of "they'll get what's coming to them". I think that belief is the danger. I think Karma is not a bitch and I think while those people who behave in an unethical way are definitely people that I remove from my circle of interaction, they may never suffer a negative consequence whatsoever from their wrong doings.
So why should we behave in that ethical, honest, full integrity way in the first place?
Because I believe like attracts like.
So, those people who are dishonest, who behave and do business in a sleazy way, they will attract other people who behave and do business in a dishonest and sleazy way.
And I'd like to thank them!
Because I do not want any of those people any where near me, and sometimes it's not immediately obvious when you are getting to know a person or starting a new business relationship.
So the next time, you are negatively impacted by a dishonest, unethical, deceitful person, rather than wishing that the experience comes back to bite them in the butt, thank them. Thank them for removing those influences from your life, your circle and your business.
Because we know that nature abhors a vacuum and it only makes space for more of the perfect people to be attracted to you in their place.
As I was driving to an event this past week, I was using the GPS feature on my phone. There was traffic, and I was paying attention to driving and to the cars around me, yet, I drove right past my destination as the little lady in the box didn't tell me to turn in time.
Remember before we had GPS?
Remember actually looking around for your destination?
Remember directions given by reference to sites you passed and landmarks?
Do we even notice those sites and landmarks any more?
I think our, at least my, reliance on GPS has started to make us blind to our surroundings.
Kind of a statement to being present in our surroundings in general. We go through so many things on autopilot without even realizing it.
What are we missing out on by being so focused on the next turn, and not where we are right now?
Now, don't get me wrong. I love, and frankly NEED my GPS. My poor husband not only can't take my tear filled phone calls when I'm lost, but is also a pilot and frequently unavailable to assist me in my navigational shortcomings.
Luckily, like most things, I think the realization is enough to start the change.
I'd love to challenge you to try to see more as you navigate your week.
Many of you have heard our vehicular story of 2014. My poor old truck was queued to be replaced. 1998, 196,000 miles, rusting down at the bottom of most of the panels.
Then, I totaled my husband's car in January in some drifting snow, and he got bumped to the front of the line.
The great part about this part of the story is that I had been looking at the new Camaro as my replacement vehicle, but had just come to the realization that it wouldn't work as the dogs hate the deep bucket seats in the back and I am the primary transporter of our furry little babies.
My husband is 6'4" and does not fit into a lot of cars, and fits comfortably into even fewer. So, it was a bit of a win for me when he decided that was going to be HIS replacement vehicle.
Of course, it's painful to consider going from a house with zero car payments to a house with 2 car payments.
So now we are finally are near the point to replacing my truck, I don't quite have the down payment saved back up, but possibly the perfect car has appeared.
I've been trying to manage my emotions and expectations, but my husband's excitement is winding me up like a kids top at Christmas. I feel like I'm going to be dead meat for the car dealer.
How many times do we let ourselves get overly excited with the anticipation of something?
How do you keep your emotions and your expectations in check? I'd love to hear your suggestions.
